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What keeps you going?

inspiration nlp resilience Jun 26, 2022

At a time when the world around us is not doing well what can we do to keep ourselves going?  How do we centre ourselves at a time like this?  It's a question that I ask myself regularly and its a question that I discuss with my clients as many of us are cycling through fight, flight, and freeze responses faster than we can finish a cup of coffee.  I have just come back from a week away with my family in the Scottish Highlands.  Two adult children, daughter-in-law, new born granddaughter, two dogs as well as my husband!  It's not been an easy year so far with some health issues for a couple of family members balanced by the love for our new arrival, Matilda.  It was the first time we have taken a holiday altogether for over 10 years.  What a delightful and wonderful mix of laughter, complete chaos, exploration, eating together, baby sitting,  picnics, scenic walks and the joy of being together.  I have been watching the six seasons...

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Feel better any time any place

Uncategorized Jun 05, 2022

Over the last four days in the UK we have celebrated 70 years of the reign of Queen Elizabeth.  I have enjoyed the pageantry and the nostalgia.  The concert outside the palace last night was a marvellous mix of the old and the new.  And, the procession today brought back all sorts of wonderfully positive memories.  I found myself transported back to a time of my early years.  I especially loved seeing Valerie Singleton, Peter Purves and Peter Duncan on the 60's bus from my favourite childens programme 'Blue Peter'.  In fact, coincidentally I only came across all my old Blue Peter albums yesterday as we unpacked the final few boxes after our recent move.  The memories that I was instantly transported back to made me feel happy and optimistic.  

In the same way, we learn with NLP that we can bring into the ‘now’ positive states we have experienced from the past. For example, any occasion in the past when we have felt...

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Alive and present

Mental health awareness week ran from the 9 - 15th May and the theme for this year is loneliness.  Here are a few startling statistics:

  • A survey by Action for Children found that 43% of 17 – 25 year olds who used their service had experienced problems with loneliness.
  • Action for Children have also reported 24% of parents surveyed said they were always or often lonely
  • Research by Sense has shown that up to 50% of disabled people will be lonely on any given day. 
  • Half a million older people go at least five or six days a week without seeing or speaking to anyone at all.

We also know that for many people lock down has made their loneliness and resulting mental health issues much worse.   For example, Beat (UK's eating  disorder charity) saw an 81% rise in enquiries to their services in the early months of lockdown.  

Our mind's 'doing' mode is the mode of efficiency - the mode in which we get things done in the material world. When we are not...

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The Power and Challenge of Your Autopilot

health mindfulness mindset May 08, 2022

Autopilot is the opposite of mindfulness.  In fact a study by Duke University back in 2006 found that nearly half of all our behaviour is automatic.  This means you get triggered by an unconscious thought and off you go adopting a habitual behaviour.  Does this sound familiar?  So, autopilot is a state of mind disengaged from the present and stuck in the habits of the past.  Letting go of our automatic behaviour enables us to escape the pull of the past, and offers us a better chance of happiness.  We often reflect on how we felt or feel about past experiences and try to apply our conclusions to attain happier outcomes in the future.  The problem occurs when we repeat this process automatically, offering the same emotional reactions to similar situations, even though the outcome last time was far from ideal.

When on autopilot, the mind steals it reactions from the past.  We don' realise that when we are in auto-pilot mode that we have a...

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What does Netflix have to do with changing behaviour?

goals personal change Apr 24, 2022

How are you? 

I was asked recently to appear as a guest in a podcast for 'Change Out Loud'.  I always find them such fun and this one was no exception.  The panelists Adnan and Kara asked me to speak about a topic which I love - 'What does it take to shift behaviour?' 

In an ideal world behaviour change would happen like this…

‘’I know exercise is good for me

Therefore, I am going for a run’’

Wouldn’t it be great if as humans we react positively and change when we learn something that could be good for us?

But, more often we know that we should do something but we choose not to…

‘’I know exercise is good for me’’

‘’But I prefer to stay at home and watch Netflix’’

Why is this?  

I want to talk about an important concept from neuro-science which explains why behaviour change is such as challenge for us. Often the heart and mind do not agree!  The brain has two...

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How you think can make your pain worse

health mindset wellbeing Apr 10, 2022

How have the last two weeks been for you? 

I read a very interesting article called 'How you think about physical pain can make it worse'.  It's by Meryl Davids Landau referencing the work of Vitaly Napadow, a neuro scientist at Harvard Medical School.  It confirms the mind-body link that we NLP'ers have known and spoken about for many years.  With so many people searching for alternative approaches beyond the pharmaceutical options, this approach brings new hope.  One patient who had been in pain for 18 years was taught what is called 'pain reprocessing therapy'.  The goal was to reprogramme his brain by teaching him that his ongoing agony was not caused by lingering tissue injury but by misfiring neural circuits related to his dread of pain or what is often called 'catastrophising'.  

What the research has shown is that those people who 'catastrophise' in their heads about their pain thinking it will never get better, that it's going to be...

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A Useful Tool for Managing Stress Part 2

In my blog of the 20th February, I spoke about the science behind how to turn everyday stress into optimal stress.  Since then we have had the war break out in Ukraine and our levels of stress are once again at peak levels as we pray for the people of Ukraine and take the action we can personally take to support the war effort.  I have been especially distressed by the photos of the men (and women) of Ukraine leaving their families behind to go to the front line.  As a mother I am anxious for the future safety of my own children.   

I have been reflecting on what Team NLP can do to help.  So today I have a thought challenging tip for you and an idea about how we can support the Ukrainian refugees arriving in the UK. 

Firstly, the tip for you...

Anxiety is best described as the unhelpful thinking patterns you experience when your mind fixates on threat, uncertainty and negativity.  This technique helps by broadening your focus to include a...

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Last shout out for our next NLP Practitioner starting the 19th March

How are you finding 2022? 

I am finding that many of my coaching clients are feeling anxious and uncertain as we emerge from two years of corona virus only to find ourselves now overwhelmed by the struggles of the Ukrainian people.  In these moments it can help to have some personal space to review where you are in your life and to figure out what you can control and change.  Our blended online NLP Practitioner will give you a toolkit that not only helps you to focus on what you want and provides you with the confidence to move ahead differently but also delivers the skills to support those around you.  

Specifically our NLP Training will help you to:

  • Develop your personal resilience to deal with the uncertainty in our world today 
  • Decide what you really want out of your life
  • Break unhelpful patterns that have held you back 
  • Give you the confidence to really go for it!
  • Build great relationships with family, friends, clients and colleagues
  • ...
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How to turn everyday stress into 'optimal stress' - part one

health mindset nlp Feb 20, 2022

How is your year starting out for you?  I am wondering if you recognise this of my coachees hoped a recent vacation would be the reset they needed giving them a head of steam to fight against the growing feeling of frustration, anxiety and restlessness they had been feeling as the pandemic wore on.  It isn't working out that way and they are seeking help.

Many people are experiencing levels of stress that are overwhelming the coping strategies they have used in the past and not fully recognising it.  At the core of this challenge is a misguided view of stress itself - many see it as something to fight against or minimise it.  No meaningful life is stress-free of course.  However, there is a level of 'optimal stress' for each one of us that actually helps us to solve important problems and grow from our experiences.  In a normal stress response, when the threat passes, our heightened state is followed by the calming effects of our...

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Free Team NLP Conference Materials

Uncategorized Jan 30, 2022

A quick email from me this week as I have diverted from packing our house up before our move this Tuesday.  To be honest it is a very welcome break!

Did you manage to attend our free NLP event on the 22nd January 2022? If you remember we had six members of Team NLP presenting on related topics to do with future proofing your life with NLP.  It is the second time we have run our free event and it will be part of our annual schedule.  It is an opportunity for us to share tips and techniques with those of you interested in NLP and wanting to make a change in your life. 

There were many highlights: 

  • Tracey spoke about how to make yourself more accountable for the changes you want in your life
  • Tonje shared tips about how to take charge of your time with a useful technique
  • Maria helped with activities for quietening negative self-talk that keeps you stuck
  • Anton shared his extensive knowledge on supplements to keep your brain health and immune system in tip top...
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