What does Netflix have to do with changing behaviour?

How are you? 

I was asked recently to appear as a guest in a podcast for 'Change Out Loud'.  I always find them such fun and this one was no exception.  The panelists Adnan and Kara asked me to speak about a topic which I love - 'What does it take to shift behaviour?' 

In an ideal world behaviour change would happen like this…

‘’I know exercise is good for me

Therefore, I am going for a run’’

Wouldn’t it be great if as humans we react positively and change when we learn something that could be good for us?

But, more often we know that we should do something but we choose not to…

‘’I know exercise is good for me’’

‘’But I prefer to stay at home and watch Netflix’’

Why is this?  

I want to talk about an important concept from neuro-science which explains why behaviour change is such as challenge for us. Often the heart and mind do not agree!  The brain has two independent systems at work. We have the emotional side that is instinctive and feels pain and pleasure and then we have the rational side that is rational and reflective.  

Using an analogy by Jonathan Haidt in his book the ‘Happiness Hypothesis’ he uses the metaphor of the elephant. The rider is our conscious, cognitive, logical mind driven from the head. It knows what makes sense, plans for the FUTURE and uses conscious resources.  Perched on the top of the elephant it holds the reins and seems to be the leader. But their control is precarious because the rider is so small compare to the elephant. You will have experienced this if you have ever overeaten, slept in, not done your accounts. The weakness of the elephant is clear it’s lazy, skittish and looking for the quick payoff (Netflix) over the long-term payoff (going for a run). It represents our unconscious, intuitive, emotional brain.  It wants to know how things will feel and is driven from the heart and gut. The elephant is interested in what is happening NOW. And responds in an automatic / habitual way.

When change fails, normally it is because of the elephant.  The rider cannot keep the elephant on the road for long enough to reach the destination.  The elephant’s hunger for instant gratification is the opposite of the rider’s strength.

This is really useful to know when setting goals which require people to change their behaviour!  In neuroscience this is called temporal discounting or current moment bias.

In order for the reward in the future to be effective, it has to be greater than the reward now – and the further in the future the reward is available, the greater the reward has to be to have the desired effect. Ie Given a choice we do not weigh reward in the future as highly as reward now!

From an NLP perspective it is so important to have a compelling goal and to know WHY you want to make the change.  For example, I want to run because I am going to stay fit and healthy so I can enjoy my new granddaughter and she can enjoy me!  This is a real goal for me right now!  Tapping into your emotional WHY definitely helps too.  

Here is the podcast in full:

Podcast 'What does it take to shift behaviour?'

Have a great week,

Lindsey and all at Team NLP x